Written by teacher, counselor, and parent, Katharine McCarthy presents a remarkably different approach to the sex talk.

We can convey to our kids that sexual connection can be a life-long source of pleasure and deep nourishment. With an opening line like that, they may listen more carefully when we offer to teach the skills necessary to enjoy this.

We can teach and practice humble self-awareness, mutual respect, and clear communication. We can offer resources when they show curiosity. We can talk honestly about the challenges of maintaining strong sexual relationships.

“There is pleasure and risk in so many things. We can include both. We can help our kids become wise and wonderful sexual beings.”

Instead we usually let our own residual discomfort take over. We lead with risks and restrictions. Many teens will find ways around any restrictions. Which effectively shuts the door on further communication. Which leaves them more vulnerable to unpleasant if not harmful early sexual experiences.

We can do so much better.